Emotional Side of Sex

A condom will NEVER protect your HEART.

You might not get pregnant, you might not get an STI, but the truth is, no one has invented a contraceptive against getting hurt.

Did you know that sex releases certain chemicals in your brain that change the way you think? These chemicals are called hormones. The hormones released during sex work to bond you to your partner. When you have sex with someone, it’s like gluing two pieces of paper together. If you tried to tear those pages apart, the break wouldn’t be a clean one. The same kind of thing happens when there’s a breakup in a sexual relationship. One or both of the people end up hurt. If this happens over and over, you can have trouble bonding to someone that you want to start a family with later on.

What does sex have to do with feelings?

The physical risks of sexual activity (pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases) are well-known, but they’re not the whole story. Sex is a powerful, intimate act that young people aren’t ready for. Young people who have sex often experience emotional difficulties such as:

Regret

Your virginity shouldn’t be something you get in a hurry to lose. Sex isn’t something you should rush into. Most teens who have had sex experience regret. In fact, 2 out of 3 sexually active teens say they wished they had waited.

Anger

When the physical risks of sexual activity become a reality, there’s bound to be some blame involved. Teens with an STI often feel anger toward their partner, and girls who have gotten pregnant often get mad with their boyfriends.

Emotional Discomfort

Young people with an STI are also less likely to feel good about themselves after sex, compared to young people who have never had an STI. Often teens can feel used, devalued, or just plain unhappy after decided to have sex with their partner.

Guilt

After sex, you might feel guilty for letting down your parents or other people who believe in you. You might feel like you let yourself down. And you could feel guilt if you hurt your partner.

Depression (maybe even attempted suicide)

Sexually active teen girls are more likely to feel depressed than abstinent girls. Teens who get an STI are more likely to feel depressed. And teen girls who have had sex are far more likely to think about or attempt suicide.

-“It’s just sex, right? The emotional impact of early sexual activity” [Brochure] The Medical Institute, 2007.