What if you could start over?
Sex. Been there, done that. Now what?
If you’ve already had sex, you might think that it’s too late to be abstinent. This is 100% not true! Today decides what tomorrow will look like. See, the stuff you do with your life now affects the way your life will be later. Even if you’ve made mistakes in the past, you still want to give yourself the best chance for succeeding in the future.
Your past is past. Maybe you made some mistakes. Haven’t we all? Let’s deal with today. For starters, you should set up an appointment with your doctor. Be honest and tell your physician about your sexual history so he or she has the information they need to properly care for you. You’re no longer a virgin, but secondary virginity is all about second chances. And you got one right now. Make a commitment starting today that you will not have sex again until your wedding night. And stand by your new commitment without compromise. It’s way more than do-able.
Make it Easier
Tell your friends about your decision and ask them to encourage you to help you keep it. You need to have support in this one. And let the people you date know where you stand on this issue. It will help you figure out who really cares about you, not just your body. Consider spending more time in groups and less time alone with a date. And avoid situations that include the use of drugs and alcohol. They can cloud your judgment and numb your ability to stay in control.