When you’re caught up in the moment, saying no to sex can be hard! But you can take charge, even in the toughest situation. Check out the scenes below. The next time you’re getting pressure, stick to your limits by using these tips.
You’re home alone, making out with your boyfriend or girlfriend. Things start to go too far and you want to slow down. Your partner says, “No one’s home. It’s the perfect time!”
Say: “No way! I’m not ready for sex yet,” or “I’d rather wait, this isn’t the right time for me.”
Do: Slow down the physical contact. Suggest an alternative like watching a movie or going out for ice cream.
Still getting pressure? Jump up and say,” I think I hear someone coming home!”
Next time: Avoid being home alone with a date. Plan a group activity or double date.
You’re in love with someone really special. You don’t want to lose him or her, but aren’t ready to go all the way. Your partner says, “You would if you loved me.”
Say: “If you loved me you wouldn’t pressure me,” or “If we love each other, it’s worth the wait.”
Do: Explain why you want to wait. Be clear about your limits so you both know where to draw the line.
Still getting pressure? Drop it for now. Take a break and talk again tomorrow.
Next time: Talk about other ways to show you care. Write a love letter.
You’re at a party where people are drinking or doing drugs. Someone from school corners you in an empty room. Next thing you know, he or she is all over you!
Say: “No!” “Get away!” and “Stop!” loud and clear.
Do: Put both hands up in a “stop” position. Move away quickly.
Still getting pressure? Fight back with all your strength. Yell for help.
Next time: Find out beforehand who will be attending a party and what will be taking place. Don’t take drugs or alcohol because they may make it harder to say no.
The Big Date
It’s prom night, graduation, your birthday or some other big evening. In the middle of a great night, your date says, “I know a really special way to end the evening.”
Say: “I’m having a great time, but I’m not ready for sex. Let’s do something else special instead.” Then suggest another activity.
Do: Limit the physical contact so you don’t send mixed signals.
Still getting pressure? Stay with a group or in a public place. If your date gets mad, don’t let it ruin your good time.
Next time: Be clear beforehand about your expectations. Plan to stay with the group.
I. O. U.
You’re out with someone you don’t know very well. Your date pays for dinner and a concert. Later, he or she puts on the pressure by saying, “Don’t be a tease. You owe me.”
Say: “Owe you?! Where’d you get that idea?” or “If I owe you anything, it’s only the cost of the dinner and concert.”
Do: Brush off the roaming hands. Say you want to go home.
Still getting pressure? Fight back. Call for help. Get away fast.
Next time: Before you accept a date, learn all you can about the person. Never go to an isolated spot on a first date.
What Would You Do If…
You’re at a party, on a date, at the prom . . . and suddenly you’re getting sexual pressure! No need to panic. You can take charge and stick to your limits. Think about how you would say “no” in different situations.