Love vs. Lust

Remember your first real crush? . . . The flush of your face, the pounding of your heart, the shortness of breath at your first touch? You were “in love” . . . or perhaps, more realistically, in love with love. Your heart was filled excitement at the anticipation of holding hands and receiving a sweet goodnight kiss. Such were the days of innocence—the ways of “puppy love”. But when infatuation turns to feverish passion, innocence can be lost.

Love vs. Lust

What is the difference between lust and love?

Remember your first real crush? . . . The flush of your face, the pounding of your heart, the shortness of breath at your first touch?  You were “in love” . . . or perhaps, more realistically, in love with love.  Your heart was filled excitement at the anticipation of holding hands and receiving a sweet goodnight kiss.  Such were the days of innocence—the ways of “puppy love”.  But when infatuation turns to feverish passion, innocence can be lost.  What you think is love turns out to be lust . . . an illusion of true intimacy . . . a counterfeit of the lasting love that sustains a relationship.  Too late, you learn there are great differences between lust and love.  The Bible tells us . . . “Put to death, therefore, whatever belongs to your earthly nature: sexual immorality, impurity, lust, evil desires and greed, which is idolatry. (Colossians 3:5)

Differences between lust and love

“I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” (Matthew 5:28)

Lust:

  • Is noncommittal
  • Is sudden
  • Is selfish
  • Is untrustworthy
  • Is impatient
  • Is faithless
  • Is uncontrolled desire
  • Is emotionally shallow
  • Is based on fantasy
  • Is full of emotion
  • Is driven by one’s passion
  • Focusses on external looks
  • Uses faulty reasoning
  • Seeks to get happiness
  • Can’t wait to get

Love:

  • Is committed
  • Is gradual
  • Is unselfish
  • Is trustworthy
  • Is patient
  • Is faithful
  • Is controlled desire
  • Is emotionally deep
  • Is based on reality
  • Is full of devotion
  • Is chosen by one’s will
  • Focuses on internal character
  • Uses solid reasoning
  • Seeks to give happiness
  • Can’t wait to give

“Love is patient, love is kind.  It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.  It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.  Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.  It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.  Love never fails.  But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.”

(1 Corinthians 13:4-8)

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